Girls Who Like Girls Who Like Boys

“She is in a relationship with a woman now.”
“Oh? It’s her first right? She’s never had a girlfriend before, no?”
“Yup.”
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A few nights ago, I was at a party where a girl wanted to kiss me; she saw me on the dance floor and made a beeline for my face.

She was pretty aggressive (not in a scary way, but very … determined) and my boyfriend watched as I dodged her advances, eventually letting her plant a kiss on each cheek (like a European!). He admitted afterward that while something like that would have been “cool” years ago, now that he and I are not “just” dating, the prospect of me making out with someone else was uncomfortable for him.

And, I appreciate answers like that.

I appreciate the attitude that a kiss between two women is not somehow less legitimate than a kiss between a man and a woman — that because it was a woman trying to plant one on me instead of a man, it would be okay because she was ‘just a girl’.

I remember in college, there were a lot of girls kissing other girls at parties as performances. None of these encounters then evolved into relationships, but one of my friends at the time didn’t, couldn’t, understand why any self-identified hetero woman would kiss another woman. And not that she had to, in my opinion (I mean, I don’t understand why some people don’t like cilantro — it’s delicious!), as long as she didn’t impose her beliefs on other people who may or may not feel the same way.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I think it should not be such a huge deal who likes whom or who does what with whom, and we should each follow our own inclinations and not categorize the differences into a hierarchy of legitimacy. For some people, attraction can be a more fluid thing and for others, more rigid. Physicality can be casual or serious. Either way, I’d like for people to let people find love, affection, or any combination thereof as much as they can* in a world that will shit on you for having the wrong color, gender, socio-economic background, culture, outer appearance, or set of beliefs.

Hmm, don’t know how I got here from the beginning but here we are!  For those that made it to the end, thanks for humoring my tangled knot of thoughts.

/ramble

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“I think if I lived here any longer, I’d end up dating women.”
“Have you been interested in women before?”
“No.”

*between consenting adults, not harmful, etc etc